‘There’s no such thing as perfect people
There’s no such thing as a perfect life
So come as you are, broken and scarred
Lift up your heart and be amazed, and be changed
By a perfect God’
This is an excerpt from Natalie Grants song ‘Perfect People”
How many of us try to live this illusive perfect life? I admit it. I do. I try and try until I just want to collapse under the weight of the lie.
By no means am I perfect. I am so very far from perfection and yet I have a desire to pretend to be. What is up with that?!
I truly desire a perfect life. I want the perfect, well -behaved children, the perfect husband. I want to over hear my husband telling another how perfect a wife he has in me. And don’t forget the perfect house and the perfect décor that goes with it; the perfect vehicle to fit in the garage of that perfect house. Whew! Are you exhausted as I am just reading my “perfect “list?!
So I ask myself, “Where does this desire of perfection come from?” I am about to get raw here, so hang tight. As a child, I always felt lesser of a person to everyone else except in the eyes of my parents. My parents esteemed me to the hilt which I am grateful for. However, I did not know how to cope with those who did not see me as the greatest. I am not placing blame on anyone; it’s just how I felt. Knowing what I know now, our feelings can distort what truth is.
I’m sure people did not think I was the greatest, but so what? I did not have enough self confidence at the time to ask myself, “How does God see me?” If I knew to ask that question every time I was teased at school or looked down upon by another, this would be the outcome. I would ask myself, “What does God think of me?” I would look in His Word, His Truth, to find the truth about myself. God created me for a purpose and He created me in His image. However, He is perfect, I am not. God loves us even though we are far from perfect. That is why God sent a perfect Savior, Jesus, to help perfect us on a daily basis.
But what I heard when I was a child growing up in a Catholic church was that God was perfect and we are not. Period. Either they left out the rest of the message or I chose to not hear about letting Jesus help us change from day to day, moment by moment.
So I went about life trying to be perfect on my own, in my own limited way that I knew how. Oh how limited it was. I strived to make good grades and yet never conquered my procrastination. I strived to be a good friend and yet never stopped gossiping. I strived to be a loyal girlfriend and yet never stopped my roaming eye. I wanted to be the best at these things and more, but I did not know that I needed someone much more powerful than me to help me conquer the inadequacies in my character. I did not know to ask Jesus for help. Thankfully now I do and He has changed me. I am so thankful that He changed many dysfunctional things in my character before I met my husband, who is not perfect, but completely perfect for me.
I still have many inadequacies and I am not cured from the desire to be perfect. I don’t know if I really will ever be in this life. But I am aware when that desire to be perfect tries to creep up much quicker than before. I try my best to take it to God every time and ask Him to help me see my wonderful, flawed life. Thankfully, God opens my eyes to see all the humor my life with three active children and a loving, adventurous husband brings.
Life is such a cool journey. When we feel life is not cool but instead exhausting, maybe we should ask ourselves, “Are we being real?” Or are we just trying to be “perfect”?
My challenge to you is, ask God to open your eyes to things you may have never seen before in your life. Strive to enjoy your life as is, not as you think you wish it to be.
“As for God, His way is perfect. All the Lord’s promises prove true. He is a shield for all who look to Him for protection. God is my strong fortress. He makes my way perfect.” 2 Samuel 22:31-33